Jeff’s Carlsbad Blog for First Time Home Buyers

Do You Feel Stupid?

Posted in Choosing a Realtor,House Hunting by Jeff Dowler on October 6, 2007
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You’re a first time buyer and you know you have a lot to learn. You are still trying to figure out what it is that you want to buy, and where. It’s a huge decision, and you have never done it before so you have no experience. So you may feel that you don’t know what you are doing.

As you come in contact with real estate agents, and perhaps mortgage brokers, during this process you will likely get asked lots of questions.

  • Do you feel stupid because you don’t know the answer?
  • Do you feel that you should know?
  • Are you embarassed because you DON’T know?

There’s a good chance that you will feel this way from time to time. I don’t think that people necessarily are tying to make you feel dumb, or that you don’t know anything, but in their quest to be helpful, or to try and get YOUR business (agents, of course, want to SELL you a home), they may ask questions that really make you feel stupid, or wrong in your thinking.

Some of it is just plain salesmanship and it can be pretty annoying. You might feel that you are getting pushed in a direction you don’t want to go, or don’t feel ready for. Plus you might get the feeling that they don’t REALLY want to help YOU, or have YOUR best interests at heart but are focused more on just making a sale…and a commission.

Listening carefully to a buyer, especially a first time buyer, is critical in order to really understand what they want and need, and to help them make some decisions. Asking good questions to help you sort through all the confusion, and to find out what things you don’t know so you can become better educated, is essential. As is recognizing your feelings and concerns and allowing you to feel the way you do rather than imply that it is wrong.

Listen to your feelings. And steer clear of folks that make you feel uncomfortable. There are plenty of good agents, and mortgage brokers, that ARE there to help – to make you feel comfortable, to educate you, to assist you in your quest for a home and NOT only be concerned about a sale. They DO have your best interests at heart, and won’t push you to make a decision you are not ready to make.

Keep an eye out for these people – when you find them you will feel comfortable and want their help. And you won’t feel stupid.

READ: Do I need to use an agent?


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